“If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time.” –Zig Ziglar
Those of us who actually remember Kevin Costner when he was kind of hunky and not so dorky, will recall his movie Field of Dreams in which he builds a baseball field following a voice and a vision instructing him to do so. Ultimately, (spoiler alert!), the act of building the baseball field brings about a fulfillment of his dreams. The whole of the movie was about persevering with his dream despite naysayers and doubters to manifest his heart’s desire.
So why am I taking you down memory’s lane (or at least, my memory’s lane), pondering Kevin Costner, of all people? Because of the vision—the importance of having a vision.
Having a clear vision for your life, short and long term, leads to having purpose—ultimately what we all need to feel life is worth living. Studies show that people who report lacking a feeling of purpose and vision have increased rates of anxiety and depression. They tend to feel incomplete, unfulfilled, restless, and often will turn to substances or other addictive activities to medicate their feelings of being unmoored in this life.
Having an overall vision for your life protects against the sting of minor setbacks and losses. When we are focused on our goals, our vision, we see setbacks as temporary obstacles to be overcome, not our undoing. This protects us from depression and despair. A vision is the candle of hope in the window of the darkest night.
In our newsletter this month, I spoke of spring being a time of rebirth and growth, of planting and nurturing seeds to grow and bloom. I challenged you all to share with me and everyone else your seeds of vision so that we may all be inspired by your lights. Being spring, at last, it seemed timely for me to talk more here of the importance of vision as the foundation, the soil, of the seeds you plant.
So, how does one find a vision?
Often, a vision can, and perhaps, should scare us a little with its “bigness.” With how much we are daring to want, to aspire to. As the saying goes: “it takes as much energy to dream small as it does to dream big, so dream big.” The vision is there already, we really don’t need to go out looking for it. It’s more often a matter of being brave enough to take ownership of that dream.
Allow yourself to really want what you really want.
Dream a big dream. Daydreaming has gotten a bad rap over the years by psychiatry, teachers, and parents. Being a daydreamer used to be considered an early sign of psychosis (yikes!). New research, however, indicates that being an active daydreamer of goals and ambitions is actually indicative of future success.
Allow yourself to fantasize, in exquisite detail, about your vision. The clearer and more specific you are, the more likely it is that you will manifest what you want. This is true both in Law of Attraction as well as the more mundane articulating and formulating of goals. The most successful outcomes for goals start with good daydreaming, ahem, strategic planning of the steps along the way.
Breaking your dream down to actionable, concrete, smaller steps will bring you closer, day by day, to manifesting your ultimate dream. Just as Rome wasn’t built in a day, the biggest visions are constructed of numerous smaller visions building on each other.
In the movie The Help, my favorite scene (other than the pie), is when Aibileen says to her little charge, “You is kind, You is Smart, You is Important.” In an ideal world, we would all believe this about ourselves. If you don’t believe this about yourself, start telling yourself this to counter the negative beliefs that will get in the way of you and your vision.
Write Them Down.
Once you have the vision in your mind, it is essential that you write it all down, in all its glorious detail. One of my favorite stories is that of a research study conducted on high school students in their senior year. The researchers asked the students how many had goals, a certain number raised their hands. Then, they asked, of the number who had goals, how many had actually written them down, a smaller number raised their hands. They then followed these students ten years later and discovered that the group who had written down their goals had three times the net worth of the entire rest of their class!
David Schwartz, in The Magic of Thinking Big, gives the homework of writing down at least 100 items in a bucket list of items to accomplish by the end of your life. Then, pick five to focus on for the next five years. The key parts are writing them down and believing you can achieve them.
I really love the idea of the Vision Board as well. There are so many images free off the Internet that can represent your aspirations. Consider making them into a screen saver for your computer.
Remind yourself daily of your vision.
And lastly, breathe….always remember to breathe. Until next time!Share